Go Suck a Lemon: Strategies for Improving Your Emotional Intelligence Kindle Edition

I love the easy reading and the cute little stories. I had been taking notes and bought three hard copies after reading the kindle edition. I had been suffering for sixty years. I’m glad to find Dr. Cornwall! I will do my homework so that the next twenty years will be more enjoyable.

Hilarious to read this book THEN read the one star reviews. I found out while reading this that I have the emotional IQ of a toddler. It gives outstanding advice, insight and strategies to pull yourself out of the pattern of your thoughts working against you. I've heard most of this before, but the author has a way of making it more applicable and usable. This is great information to teach young children and give them skills to deal with challenges they will have in their lives. MUST READ! But if you don't, I'll be ok with it. 😜

Surprised with me some personal development advice I hadn't heard before. Much better than I expected. Easy to follow. Great blook for any employee. Lots of books tell you to think positively. This one goes the extra step and tells you how.

I really liked this book. I was one of those people who go for extremes like "they shouldn't act like that" instead of saying "I would prefer if they didn't act like that, but if they did i would be ok."I read up to page 30 on my first sitting with it, that normally doesn't happen! This book is ready to read with double space and clear pages.

The book is a quick read on emotional intelligence. It is mostly focused on sell assessment and self management. It offers a nice perspective on that area. It does not give much information on dealing with others aside from the fact of getting you to feel good or content with other's actions. So if you are looking for tools as a supervisor to help you with your staff, this is not the book for you. The book is written from a clinical standpoint and focuses on self help. It does not deal with productivity or working with other people.

The author tries to breakdown the solution of every emotional difficulty to a single formula. A + B = C/D > EWhere (A) is your trigger (B) is the irrational thinking or justification which leads to (C) Emotional consequence BUT coupled with what he calls (D) Disputation the emotional response can be (E) Evolved into something more healthy and useful.There are a few pitfalls that the author doesn't address. For instance sometimes your "triggers" are very hard to pin down, sometimes you feel something without really knowing its cause, or the cause could be coming from a bad experience in the past not connected to the present. Sometimes there is more than one cause making it harder still to understand or pin down.There is a lot of emphasis on rational thinking and changing your inner voice to suit your needs instead of letting your warped feeling do your thinking for you, which I fully understand and agree with. HOWEVER, sometimes your logical thinking get 'highjacked' by your strong overpowering emotions which means the (D) Disputation element of the formula breaks down. The author spends no time clarifying this point and instead the book meanders with long winded anecdotes that are enjoyable to read but lead to very obvious conclusions like "you can change your emotions by changing how you think".It may be well suited for some people but it wasn't for me. But I did find another book helpful in this area. Emotional Thinking 2.0, which I would recommend over this. It says that you need to sit down with your emotions (even if you can't describe them) and let them pass through you, let them run their course. Don't try to pin them down, label or judge them (opposite of what Dr. Cornwall suggests) and I found this strategy to work for me. As soon as the emotion subsides or takes its course I am much better able to ascertain its cause and recognize it when it arises again. I found this approach to be much more rewarding (although it takes more patience and would qualify as a more passive approach). One last thing I want to say is do not get sucked in by the catchy title, the cool lemon photo (as I did) or the 5 star reviews. Instead go on content and definitely take a look at Emotional Intelligence 2.0 - it seems to be more complete and the content appears to be more organized.

I thoroughly enjoyed this book. It reviews a relatively simple idea- you are responsible for how you feel. Not necessarily easy to live out especially in this world where many people resist such an implication of personal responsibility but potentially powerful to actually live out. As a clinical social worker, I enjoyed his style of writing because it felt like hearing from a colleague. These are not new concepts to me but I feel newly inspired to practice living them out.

The author is clearly intelligent and knows his subject, but I felt the book was choppy and hard to follow. It’s not for the everyday person,I felt like it was a PHD college book. The book Didn’t flow and was not entertaining to read and the content was hard to retain.

This is an excellent book on the importance of understanding and then applying better Emotional Intelligence. The book is written in an easy to follow way. I would highly recommend this book to anyone interested in the topic or hoping to improve their own Emotional Intelligence.

Received as expected

This book has not been published by a professional publishing house - perhaps because it is so bad. The author has self-published it.The author may know his subject, but he cannot put his knowledge across in a book, at least not in this book. The layout is very poor, the English grammar and writing style is quite dreadful and the content is complete tosh. There is very little structure and very little content specifically about the 4 distinct areas of emotional intelligence.I got absolutely nothing out of reading this.Please don't waste your money. There are so many better books on Amazon on this subject that are actually useful.

Emotional response is almost entirely run on autopilot, it's not a conscious thought process like he proposed, it literally is processed in a different parts of the brain and by passed the neo cortex, which the amygdala then triggers a cascade of physical stress response which leads to a cocktail of stress hormones that dumbs down the neo cortex by 70%.. this whole process takes seconds.. THEN the self narrative kicks in to interpret the event and rationalise those most likely irrational responses that already happened.. his ABCs got the whole sequence wrong.. the parts of the brain that process emotions and languages are entirely different, translation is often unreliable and slippery, we are evolved to respond immediately to dangers perceived by the unconscious mind.. we don't think first, and then feel it.. like girls don't just go watch a comedy show and go "oh.. he's funny.. i think i need to feel horny, because when people ask me what kinda guy i like, I always say funny guys".. people FEEL first, then they justify why they feel certain way which usually only scratch the surface of their values and what's been wired into our genes.. we can change, but the process of unwiring the brain takes time, because of the automatic responses are literally a habit, like slouching, the walk a person walks etc they're all moved to the procedure-memory which requires no conscious thinking to carry out those tasks.. just like a skilled pianist, after the initial clumsyness of learning and physically behaving in a new way, myelin on those specialized neropathway thickens, neurons with myelinated axons can conduct the impulse at a faster speed since the myelin sheath acts as the insulator that helps to propagate the electrical signal faster... Hence more efficient.. the same process goes to our default/autopilot emotional responses, we unknowingly trained ourselves to make that response more efficient than necessary.. The most effective way to stop that is build new pathways/responses.. meditation is a great way to become more cognisant and mindful when thoughts and emotions arise, then use that awareness as the cue to remove oneself from them instead of being drown by them.. which then give one the head space to process critical thinking and recognise the possibility of one's own biases and the flaws of one's subjective reality.. funny enough.. the practice of meditation increases the grey matter in the cortex and reduces the size of the amygdala.. his proposed ABCs steps had the sequence wrong..

Excellent piece of work, with practical strategy for working on emotional intelligence. Extremely useful in corporate world, and day to day living.