The Other Half of Asperger Syndrome (Autism Spectrum Disorder): A Guide to Living in an Intimate Relationship with a Partner who is on the Autism Spectrum Second Edition Kindle Edition

I am NT and my husband is AS. We benefited greatly in reading this as a general overview shortly after we learned he is on the Spectrum. It is a pretty encapsulating place to start if you are new to a diagnosis or wondering if you or your partner is on the Spectrum. It also offers some strategies and tips for improving communication. The only issue I had with it was that the author says that domestic violence is "quite uncommon," yet she mentions sudden, explosive anger, including toward children, and even throwing objects, in several sections of the book. Verbal abuse, breaking things and creating a scary or unpredictable environment for your children to grow up in and emotional (if not physical) damage to your wife is domestic violence. The author acknowledges that after the outburst the AS partner recovers quickly, whereas the NT is left wounded and "in a flood of tears." The AS partner is frustrated that the NT is still upset. The NT is left to get over it on his or her own. I just don't find this acceptable. I don't know the solution to this frequent part of a NT/AS marriage, but I just don't accept where she leaves this topic. Overall, however, a very informative book.

This reads very much like an extended brochure. It is helpful, especially if this is your first read on the topic. A great place to start. Ultimately, I doubt other books will do more than elaborate on the simple truth: if you are partners with an Aspie, you will need to have realistic expectations, learn how to communicate in a very concise and direct manner, and draw firm boundaries to protect your selfhood.

This is a difficult book to read if you bristle at gross generalizations and unsubstantiated claims.Just one example on page 23: "women are more likely to choose a partner to whom they can relate whereas men are more likely to choose a partner who compensates for what they find difficult or cannot do." Instead of actual research, the author draws on her own personal experience to justify her conclusions (eg, "My experience certainly backs...") So, I'm afraid there's just not a lot of reliable information here.

This should be required reading for anyone who has a spouse on the spectrum. Very insightful and helpful in getting me to understand and communicate with my husband better.

For a women who suspects her spouse may be on the autism spectrum this book offered support/ understanding and especially validation for feelings she's been experiencing for most of their 23. 5 years of marriage. Although very enlightening it also left me scared and wondering what my future looks like if I choose to stay in my marriage.

Aston helped me become very sure that we're dealing with an Aspie marriage—fortunately not the most stressful, from what I'm discovering. Clear and non-condescending writing makes the information very accessible, and good book organization makes it easy to either spot read to read straight through.

Unfortunately for me, the book is more about men rather than women with Asperger's. The section on communication was the best part of the book.

The most helpful book that I've read (and I've read quite a few) regarding an AS/NT marriage. It helped me understand my marriage and has made me much more tolerant of my husband and his behaviour.

New partner fits every aspect of Asperger’s details in this book...have felt as if I couldn’t take anymore but this book has given me the strength and understanding to make a go of it with him.Even from whirlwind romance, how the partners see atheists AS as quiet, etc and nicely not a party goer... right through to the “honeymoon” period and difficulties the shining through.Partner undiagnosed previously ended at 57 he is suffered thinking he odd and hated himself all his life and I’m the only person that’s ever talked to him about it despite a 30 year marriage before his wife died.Has given me the strength and understanding I need.Grateful for this books exact details..

This book explain in a fairly complete yet simple way how to understand people with ASD if you are their NT partner. Many of the situations described here I've experienced myself with my former partner. I wish I had read it before, perhaps my relationship will not had ended.There are also very useful suggestions how to deal with every day situations. A must have if you're in a ASD/NT relationship.

I read this due to living with an undiagnosed partner, who refuses counselling but is aware they possibly have Asperger's Syndrome. I was driven to despair and knew there was something wrong in our relationship and often felt we were both speaking different languages resulting in him withdrawing or having stupid fall outs. The book helped me to realise AS is the problem and has been for many years. To save my sanity I chose to read the book as self-help and research. It now means I need to change my behaviour in how I communicate with him, not easy but I don't want to walk away from 43 years of commitment even though I have felt broken many times and alone.

Very helpful for those in a relationship with a man with Aspergers. Hopefully if read in time will give others the information they need to overcome the problems, for me it has come too late but has still given me much needed answers

Enlightening. Made me recognise certain behaviours in my other half and explained much of the disconnect re communication and certain other habits. Hasn’t yet managed to clear up why the o/h is just so bad at washing up though...!