How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together: Breakthrough Strategies to Resolve Your Conflicts and Reignite Your Love

don't get hung up on perceived sexist attitudes - she is not telling women to be dishrags and to accept mistreatment by their lazy, unloving husbands. She says that at the beginning and the reader would do well to remember it throughout the book. What she says is accept you CANNOT change your mate and trying to do so will only make you unhappy. Learn to accept the things about him/her you can accept, or I guess leave, and model the behaviour you want to see. (Anyone who has followed Al-Anon literature will see parallels.) Full of practical advice how to do that: reframing the argument and changing the language you use to not sound critical. Part 4 is advice on how to look after yourself - you cant love others or expect them to love you, if you can't love yourself.You're unlikely to like all the advice she gives, or any other author, but its also unlikely there won't be something in this book to help you in your relationship, be it with a mate or yourself.

This is one of the best marriage books I would say I have ever readI take shortcuts in life and learn from other people's mistakes So that I don't take the same road and expect a different result= insanity.She gives the foundation of how to work alone on a two person relationship. The booby prize of life: Being right. It's also the interaction between people that needs a cure. Keep reminding myself, "I am going to change so we can be happy."ERAP using this to help resolve anger issues and creative problem solving.The Seven Steps bringing the two of you together:1. Act as if you are a loving spouse2. Think goodwill3. Focus on positive qualities4. Change incompatible to complementary5. Make cozy time a priority6. Plan a surprise date7. Plan a full-blown romantic evening and surprise your partner with it. And remember everything is an experiment, learn from it.Resolve Your Most Upsetting Problems-By Yourself.1. Act on your own2. Reverse direction: Do the opposite of what you have been doing3. Reframe the power struggle4. Enlist your partner's help in solving your problem5. Express empathy for your partner's position6. Gracefully accept what you cannot change7. Ask for what you want8a. For men only- Space in8b. For women only- Stop coachingDiscover how one of can bring the two of you very close together: Intimacy and companionshipLong term strategies for keeping your relationship robustWhen you set change in motion anything can happen.As our nation grows more and more self-centered and chew out God for everything and anyone; everyone will seek what is right in their own eyes and will follow the will of the majority blindly. As our inner person is a wreck, we will have to be controlled by outside forces. The Curse: God gives us leadership of our own making. The family must come back to be the center of society or face the consequences of a crumbling, crushing, destructive society that shall come to an end.

This is hands down the best relationship rescue/improvement book I've ever read. And I have read and own many. I have been just picking my way through it slowly, and applying different things. Changing my "stinking thinking" has made a world of difference. It is empowering to feel secure in ones choices, and we all have a choice in how we think, how we respond, and how we LOVE. Love is a verb, and we can DO differently to show our love to our spouse. Many times we will never solve the issues we are fighting about. And that is O.K.!! Trying to explain our points of view over and over, is exhuasting and self defeating...let go! My motto has become "what is more important, winning, or being in a happy marriage?"And it's not about being a door mat either. Nor is it about a 50/50 balance in your marriage. It is more important that YOU feel balanced in giving to yourself, and to your mate, which in turn lets go of resentments. Don't expect him/her to take care of your needs, take care of your needs yourself, and free him from the responsibility of taking care of you.I am a very analytical minded person, I love to dig and get to the bottom of issues. I feel so much less stressed out letting go of "having to know/understand" and just BEING.This book is saving my marriage!

There is good advice in here based on the fact that the actions one partner takes can influence the thoughts, feelings, and actions of the other partner (both positively and negatively). This book would be good for someone who is looking to be closer their partner but has not been able to get through to them.However, if your marriage is in serious jeopardy, this book is much too basic for you. If your partner is considering seperation and/or divorce, skip this book and go straight for Divorce Remedy by Michele Weiner Davis, which is based on the same principal that one person has the power to change the direction of a marriage but it is an actual 7-step program that is much more in depth, has better examples, and has an online forum and telephone coaching that go along with it.

This is an excellent resource for spouses with uncommunicative partners. Susan Page demonstrates how one person can help the other address the issues being faced by the couple, even if he / she refuses to think about the challenges, let alone resolve them. Susan's suggestions and techniques for a loving approach towards resolution are truly effective. As well, the strategies learned from the approach can be applied to other personal and working relationships.

This book is a must read for anyone in a relationship. It reaffirms if you are on the right track or re sets you if you have taken a diversion. Thank you for putting me back on the map alongside my partner 😊

Good value for money, satisfied with this purchase

Such a good read, I was hooked throughout! Could truly relate to a lot of this and made meSee certain things much clearer, definitely worth a read!

I tried the initial steps in this book and did see some improvement.

Good book