Be the Person You Want to Find: Relationship and Self-Discovery

This book is not religious in any way, does not point to god, Jesus or have any steps. It does not focus on "mental health" like the "recovery movement" does and does not go over board with all of the "mental health education" bla bla bla bla. .. bla bla bla like most of the "recovery classes" around the nation. . .it is healing focused, not mental health focused.Anyone can read these books. You don't need to have a mental health problem to read them. I think everyone will be able to relate to what is in this book. I don't want to reveal too much. All I can say is GET THIS BOOK. Now if you are a fundamentalist Christian, um. .. you may not want to get this book. It doesn't point to "jesus this and jesus that" and it doesn't say to "pray to Jesus for healing in your relationship". You will not find any scripture in this book. If you need jesus to help you, don't purchase this book. Go to the Bible. This book will teach you how to love yourself without the need for jesus. (I used to be a fundie Christian for over 18 years, so I know).I was told about Cheri Huber from my therapist. She told me about Cheri Huber and Zen Buddhism. She told me about "There is Nothing Wrong with You" first (I think). I read that book first and THAT BOOK takes the cake. I would suggest that everyone read "There is Nothing Wrong with You" as a good base in Cheri Huber's philosophy. She is a Zen Buddhist. That is where you just watch and be in the now.I was told that all her books are cute with the writing. Cheri's books are easy to read and it looks like you are reading a book that a 10 year old wrote due to the big large print. This book is a relationship book, so if you are married or dating, purchase it. But you can use this on ANY relationships, your mom, your dad, your friends, your lover, and the relationship you have WITH YOURSELF. A 16 year old wold be able to understand this book.I was told about "The Depression Book" but that one was not nearly as good as this one. Cheri also has "The Fear book". Haven't read that book. I'm sure half the things I do in relationships are due to FEAR, but this book will talk about that.read "There is Nothing Wrong with You" first. . . I'm still not done with Be the person you want to find since it is so very deep you will want to chew on everything that you read and let it sink in. And why not BE that person that you so want to find in a relationship?

I bought this book because, honestly, I wanted to attract a better partner. And after partially reading it once and fully reading it just now, I feel compelled to not only write a review, but to explain why this is so much more than a "relationship book".Relationships are important, yes; but the relationship you have with yourself is paramount. And this book helps you come back to this knowing, and instead of focusing on the content, focuses on the process. The content will change all the time. The content will vary based on which partner you're with at the time and what circumstances through which you're going. The process however will be with you your whole life, and it's with compassionate awareness that we're able to recognize this and practice unlearning our conditioning.I'm going to be honest, some of the concepts require rereading and it is all to easy to skim a page and really miss the depths of what Cheri is conveying. But that does not mean it is not worth buying, reading, and rereading several times over.I attached pictures of some of my favorite passages from the book. If you are even the least bit intrigued, I highly recommend purchasing. Best of luck.

Open your mind

This book completely changed my life. I was a philosophy major in college and have been actively involved in group & individual therapy for years, so I've read and pondered life a lot, but this book spoke to me more than anything I've ever read. My relationship with my significant other has improved tenfold because I'm so incredibly peaceful in my new state of compassionate, passive awareness. My relationships with friends and family have also benefited from my new way of thinking :). Even the most sensitive topics that used to elicit fury and insecurities, hardly ruffle my feathers now. I sent this book to my brother and after he read it he told me that this book "is his spirit". I normally loan books to people who might need some self-help, but I won't let this book out of my reach and instead, I will buy them copies, worth every penny. Forever grateful!

Loved this book a thousand times and have read it over and over again.Yes, life is hard. Working through our stuff is harder because we are the barriers to our own happiness. Cheri outlines it in an easy way in this book and really hits it home. If you're fresh out of a breakup, hopelessly single and not working with dating, or even in a relationship on troubled times... this book is a MUST.

I found this book to greatly improved my happiness and understanding in relationships...romantic and otherwise. Id say that you need to come in with some understanding of Zen, Taoism etc. At least a very open mind especially if your past conditioning and beliefs are deeply rooted in Western religion and thought. It's a simple book, but not easy.

This book is like having a knowledgeable and kind friend at your side. There were a lot of moments where I could see why I and others felt the way they did, and why certain relationships fell apart and what could’ve been done differently. I’m definitely going to reread it again.

The book was ok. It was mostly on relationships though. i guess that's cool if you're mostly lost within spouse. Good for people that are with a person that they are in love with, but the spouse is never happy with anything no matter what they do. I found it easier to just let that person go and try to live life for yourself. Love God, Love yourself, and treat yourself to the things that make you happy. The right person will see the person you are and fall in love too.

Really insightful book (as are the whole series) very economical with words but each word is full of meaning and the drawing are fun and deep with meaning too. An easy way to look at this in depth and from a spiritual perspective.

Excellent product and service

Excellent book, simple and straight forward in approach.explains everything and easy to understand and comprehend.Cheri is a true Gem !

Good information and an easy read.

This is a great read - get ready to deepen your self-awareness!