To The Unloved Daughter: Notes from your Inner Mother

I already have Danu's original book, so bought this as a follow up. I have to say, as a daughter of a narcissistic, and I would say frankly sociopathic 'Mother', reading this is akin to learning a new language altogether. I've simply NEVER heard any of the words contained in this book emanating from my 'Mother', except the negative thoughts it hopes to counteract of course.Growing up, I could see how friends would have totally different family relationships. How they would be supported and encouraged, and praised and directed. How their parents would know their likes and dislilkes, turn up to things they were taking part in, know what was happening to them, pay attention etc, be there for them to fall back on, how they actually had that thing they called a 'home'. I can see how they would have been used to hearing the things in this book, things that I see on greetings card sometimes, or in books and films and that feel totally alien to me.So this is what a Mother was supposed to be, and reading what should have been, only highlights how far away my 'Mother' actually was from that. She would always insist otherwise of course. But it really isn't until you see what someone could have been, and compare it with what they actually are, that you truly notice the difference. It isn't until you are treated well, that you realise how badly you have been treated before. It isn't until you realise how someone could have treated you, and compare it with how they actually treated you, that you realise just how badly you were actually treated, and what a tremendous effect it had on you. Reading the messages in this book is akin to that, to being treated well, and that's when it hits you, even if you'd never consciously acknowledged it before, how badly you needed to hear these things and never did.Reading this is kind of simultaneously heartbreaking but self affirming. If I had any doubts that there was something very wrong with my 'Mother', or that she WAS a narcissist, reading the messages in this book that I should have heard throughout my life from a Mother, but never heard anything of the kind from her, would have absolutely confirmed it for me, because this is what an actual Mother should be like.If my actual 'Mother' found this book in my house, I can imagine the spiteful jealous resentful look on her face at doing so, and her cackling at reading the heartfelt messages a real Mother would say to their daughter, and me owning this book at all, and you know, being an actual human with my own thoughts and feelings, which says it all really. This book is filled with all the messages your resentful self obsessed 'Mother' never wanted you to hear.I would highly recommend this book, along with Danu's original book.

Perfect book to keep close to your heart. Anyone who has felt like their mother did not love them or could not love them for whatever reason....this is the book you need. This is the third book I have bought from the same author, about the same subject, and they have all helped me.

Total waste of money. Anybody could have done this. The pages have a tiny message on each, many repeat themselves. Some are one line.I found most more upsetting than comforting. Some are condescending and a lot will trigger pain and trauma. They play down our pain and loss.Don’t waste your money on this at all. It actually made me angry that someone could make money off this. It’s not been thought through as to the impact of some messages. At times invalidating our pain.

Very beautiful book.. so uplifting, will have the reading smiling to themselves after reading every note

Highly recommend this book. It has helped me to heal and recover. If you are an unloved daughter it's a must buy, it will really help it did me

Some basic things really let this down. This self publisher has not allowed enough margin on centre of the book to allow for easy reading, which is irritating. At times the writing style is difficult, with some some basic grammar errors. These things really let down the book, which has a basically good idea, although I think the title could do with some work. No one wants to be known as unloved!