Infidelity: A Survival Guide Paperback – Big Book, June 1, 1998

I bought this book based on the excellent reviews it has received on this website. I was seeking a book that would help my spouse and I to deal with the infidelity that has occurred in our marriage in hopes of learning to rebuild trust and more importantly, better communication. I had hoped this book would give my spouse some insight as to how and why the affair possibly occurred. The insight that I have found however, is that the communication lessons included in the book will only work if both parties accept blame for their part in what went wrong in the marriage, show remorse and willingness to change, show empathy for one another and a sincere interest in saving the marriage. If one party feels that they have NEVER done anything wrong in the marriage and the fault falls on the other's shoulders primarily, then there is no book that you will ever read that will help you. Having said all of that, this book did help me to recognize my feelings and identify with why I feel the way I do about certain situations. It helped me to organize my thoughts in a healthy, productive way and I have come to the realization that perhaps my marriage cannot be saved. This book addresses divorce, as well as how to deal with your children and help them cope. I did find this book to be quite helpful in most areas. I am even more enlightened now, after reading, that it takes two to marry, two to destroy a marriage and TWO TO SAVE A MARRIAGE.

As a therapist, I am always looking to garner new nuggets of truth to help my clients. I must admit that I have only skimmed this book, but the portions that I've read have been insightful and helpful.

Infidelity is a life altering event for most people and can be a horrible thing to try and find reconcilation with. This book offers insight into the many different aspects of it. It can't change the situation for the people who are the dealing with this issue but it does help to answer some of the millions of questions that plaque the minds of those afflicted by this most heartbreaking event. It is certainly worth the time it takes to read.

The book helped me to understand what is behind infidelity. My ex-husband had many affairs during our 23 year history and the book really provided me with some insight into how affairs manifest and grow. The book also helped me to deal and cope with my feelings of betrayal. I highly recommend this book to anyone (especially women) who have been cheated on.

This guide help me reflect and gain insight to my marriage and the betrayal. I referred back to this book many times while going through my struggles of being betrayed having many of the points highlighted and described in details that were easy for me to understand and relate to.

It's not a mind blowing book but definitely has some really good points and a couple of ah moments.

Bought this for a fiend, and I hope it helps with their understanding and pain.

Great

This book is a brilliant guide to help you through the catastrophic effects of infidelity, especially if therapy is not an option .it helped me to soothe the pain of many years of betrayals.

One reader called this a lifeboat in a sea of despair and I bought this book on that recommendation. How true it was! This book was SO helpful to me as I struggled with the fall out of my husband's affair. It is readable, useful for both the offending partner and the betrayed partner (we got him a copy of his own) and it probably did more to help us than 11 weeks of marriage counselling. It is a good first port of call in a sea of confusion and despair.Read my other reviews for other books that I also found helpful in trying to deal with damage an affair causes to all involved. "Not Just Friends" by Shirley Glass is especially useful if the affair is a work place affair and/or if (like me) you need more help with recovery than this book alone can offer.

This is a really good book to read for anyone who's gone through/is going through something similar. Left me in a much happier state of mind and optimistic about the future.

If you have ever been the victim of infidelity the biggest problem is getting your head around why a loyal and trusted partner would do something like this to you...This book gives you some insight on the reasons behind what has happened and how, to some degree, your partner has sectioned off this "double life" in thier head... It's also important to understand that you are not always the problem..., and the book offers some comfort in helping you to come to terms with this..It gets a bit heavy after a while, but it is a complicated topic...It could happen to anyone, and sadly you never know when...Well worth a read if this has happened to you...

Extremely helpful for both the offending partner and the discovering partner. It's plainly written and easy to understand, and a great starting point to move past the trauma phase and begin healing - whether that means staying together or not.