Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships

A very robust overview of Open / Poly relationship concepts. Certainly eye-opening for people who haven't considered the options. Mark & Patricia don't endorse any way of relating over the other; they want to be sure everyone has thought about their choices, and are in the relationship model that works to best satisfy the inner self.They write: "You are the designer, along with your partner or partners, and it's up to you to create a relationship that works and to redesign it when and if appropriate. We invite you to move beyond the binary thinking that deems monogamy and various forms of consensual nonmonogamy to be irreconcilable opposites."It includes some good advice for keeping your relationship strong, which follows on their amazing Partners In Passion: A Guide to Great Sex, Emotional Intimacy and Long-term Love which I'd suggest is must-have reading for everyone in (or thinking of being in) a relationship. Ie: everyone!

I enjoyed this book, though it didn't meet my expectations. The back matter implied that it would be insightful for all sorts of relationships, but ended up being 75% about polygamy and swinging. Nothing wrong with those topics! I just wasn't looking for that based on the description.Good insights, though, even if it does get a bit woo in places.

I love that this book is really inclusive and helpful to the entire spectrum of relationship models, and offers experience-based wisdom to figuring out how to create the loving life that's right for you. It's accessible and practical, with action-oriented ideas. And the basis of the book is that we can collaborate creatively with our partner(s) while fully embracing ourselves. Refreshing, quick read that addresses elements of polyamory and relationships rarely discussed all in one book.

I am a mod on the largest mono-poly relationship group on Facebook, and this is one if the only books we recommend.It is a great resource whether you are polyamorous, monogamous, or somewhere in between, and dies not treat polyamory as somehow "more evolved" than monogamy.It really focuses on being intentional with your relationships and not doing things just because they are expected.I cannot rate this book highly enough!!!

Very informative about various relationship structures. Would have been of more value earlier in my non-monogamy research, but still a solid book. Useful for monogamous and non-monogamous people alike, I would think

I bought this book because someone recommended it to me because of my mono-poly dynamic. I gotta say the book is not bad, but not for me. It's more for people starting to deconstruct what they were thought, give it a try.

I have strongly recommended this book to people who attend the poly Meetups that I host, but this is not just another "how to do polyamory right" book. It's much more than that.This is a book that will help you to really think about, talk about, plan, and craft the meaningful, lasting, loving relationship YOU want -- whether it's monogamous, polyamorous, or any of the many other varieties of lovestyles that exist. Design the relationship that fits who you are, how you and your partner(s) want to live and love. And then make it stronger.A clearly, thoughtfully written guide written by two people whose expertise in the field I have admired for the past 16 years.I bought a copy for me, read it, and then bought copies for friends and family.

I really learned a lot about the different types of relationships. I especially liked the myth busting section and the explanations of the different types of jealousy and the difference between jealousy and envy.