FemDom Relationship Guide: How to build a lasting and successful female led relationship with a submissive man

As other reviewers have mentioned, the author abuses the English language as thoroughly as the most wanton masochist. The book is poorly organized, repetitive, self-contradictory, and overall sounds like it was written by a mediocre high school student trying to bang out a paper on a book she didn't read. The author laments that society is too male-dominated, then says that men have to "act more feminine" if they want to advance their career. She says, "I am not a feminist," because unlike them, she doesn't think that women are inherently superior and should run the world (that's not what feminists actually believe, but let's ignore that), then repeatedly wonders if society would be better off if women ran the world because they're inherently superior.But even worse, this book recommends dangerous and unethical practices as a matter of course (e.g., don't use safewords, make your husband sleep in a kennel with no discussion of safety, etc.). There's a reason why every other serious book about kink recommends the opposite. For more examples, just flip through the headings. The author wonders aloud if it's a good idea for white men to submit to black dommes (WHAT?!--though to her credit she concludes that yes, that's okay, because she met a black domme once and she seemed really cool), and if women should "lend" their submissives to other people. There's not even the implication that the submissive's consent matters. She even tells him what his religion should be, and how to vote. She says her husband's only option besides doing exactly what she says at all times is to leave the relationship, yet he's not allowed access to money or other people without her permission. This is not a picture of a loving or healthy relationship in the least.Fortunately, I suppose, I doubt this story is true. The author implies that she is a woman with college-age children in the southern United States. She allegedly found a bunch of panties in her husband's gym bag, at which point he confessed to seeing a dominatrix. As she tells it, she kicked him out of the house for a while, researched femdom and found the whole thing disgusting, but nonetheless invited him back home on the condition that he be her total slave 24/7. Apparently, it was off to the races after that; next thing you know, she's making him walk around in New York City with a big ribbon in his hair.And that's where the factual inconsistencies start popping up. According to her, most people on the street more or less ignored him, but a few pages later she said it was important he deal with the humiliation of men "sneering" at him. She also spells "behavior" with a u, which is not how an American would spell it, and she refers to football games as "matches," which is also much more common outside the States. The only things that indicate she might actually be a middle-aged Southern woman are her constant references to her Christian faith, and the subtle and gratuitous dig at Bill Clinton in the second paragraph of Chapter 1. (If you missed it, it's probably because of the typos and the lack of quotation marks. But don't worry, she uses "plenty more" for "no reason.") This book does not read like a sane woman's recounting of an actual journey in a marriage. It sounds like a stream of consciousness from a man who fancies himself a novelist, writing with one hand under the desk.If you are in the position this author claims to have once been in--i.e., if you are the wife of a man you just found out was submissive under less-than-ideal circumstances, and you want to make him happy but don't know where to start, don't start here.

I had high hopes for this book, but it failed completely. The writer makes far too many assumptions about dominant women and submissive men and the BDSM community at large. Her methods raise many red flags on issues of consent and safety when entering into such relationships even among married couples. I recommend any couple looking for a healthy D/s relationship stay far away from this book.

This was very well written It was like she new exactly what he need to help her husband be happy and at same time found out being a mistress is good for her also.

I have tried to get into this book, but it is just impossible. There are so many grammatical and punctuation errors, it literally makes the book difficult to read.Often times, i need to go back and re-read certain sentences to try and figure out what the author is trying to say. The book looks like it is written by a 5th grader, or someone whose first language is not english. It makes it really difficult to focus on the content of the book.

What I liked about the book. I most enjoyed that the author was real. She talked about how fluid situations can be and took the context out of the fantasy and spoke of real life situations and issues. I think reading this would help more men understand this dynamic on a deeper level.What I didn’t like were the typos. There were a number of typos and I found it distracting. Otherwise well done.Jake

Well written information on the subject

Good read

This had me so flummoxed, that I actually had to take a few days, to mull it over. It's billed as a relationship guide. The majority of guides that I have read, have been written by experts in a field, and they are organized, instructional and informative. "The FemDom Relationship Guide," by Caroline Peel, reads more like an informal journal. Peel's only source and reference, is the dominatrix, that her husband, "cheated with." Peel also met and befriended other wives, through this dominatrix, who practice the lifestyle, with whom, she swaps stories and strategies. Peel included a few anecdotal, anonymous, e-mails from "submissive slaves, who write to her." Oddly, they obviously share her disdain of punctuation, grammar and spellcheck. The journey begins with her discovery of her husband, of many years, "Jack," cheating on her with a dominatrix. Jack, apparently spent a great deal of time and money, pursuing his interest in becoming a submissive, but he didn't share his desires and feelings with his wife, wounding her deeply. She threw him out of their house and after careful consideration, she "allowed him back in," under her strict terms. He is to be her slave. He signed over all of the assets and all of his earnings goes into her hands. He can make no decisions, he even has to vote, as she desires. She humiliates him, at every turn. He cannot go out alone, at night. There is no safe word, no out and no relief. Peel would have his thoughts, dreams and soul, if she could. Transgressions are met with being locked in crate, or threats of ending the marriage and being "outed." She believes this is for his own good. She doesn't know why her husband desires to be treated this way and makes no effort to understand him. She forms assumptions, with no basis, and feels if she repeats them many times, ( and she does,) they must be true. Although this is a journey she shares with her husband, we never hear from her husband - not once. Peel says this is what he needs and wants. So be it. Peels states that she assumes this role to prevent her husband seeking this relationship, with another woman. Yet, her hurt and anger, drip from every page. It feels punitive to the very core. Even when she brings other men into the home, and becomes THEIR mistress. She justifies this, by saying she doesn't take monetary compensation, so it's not the same. As I was nearing the last pages of this "guide," it occurred to me this written account, may be no more than another means, to control her husband. Every detail on the ready, to out him. Peel instructs the reader, that if they like her book, to give it five stars, if not, to contact her personally. Sorry, but I'm not a submissive, and I call them as I see them. I cannot in good conscience, recommend this book. I wish I didn't have to award it even one star, to share my thoughts. I received this book as an ARC and I volunteered this review.

A very large amount of grammar errors. Very much tailored to the experience of 1 woman but informative non the less. Suitable for a woman new to the scene and willing to investigate how others are taking a FLR forward.

Miss peel gives a lot of good advice to would be submissive. She alsoe gives reassurance about this way of live to the would be dom.

Not a bad book the author seemed to have a lot of bitterness in her feelings and actions toward her sub and does have a case of tunnel vision like so many in this lifestyle saying that she doesn't use corporal punishment and using something different does not make you unique the rest of what you do for the most part was taken from the dom who your husband cheated on you with a little ironic. I think you would be better off using multiple sources and going with what makes you both happy. Grammar was weak but overall a genuine story and slightly intersting.

BravoSimplement écris très imagé et agréable à lireDonne le goût d’introduire ce genre de relation dans mon couple...