Fight Fair: Winning at Conflict without Losing at Love Paperback – Illustrated, July 1, 2010

It's very important if you're an author without a major publisher behind you, to get a solid editor for your prose. Additionally, when considering publishing digitally, you must have someone that knows how to format the book in the right way. Fight Fair isn't formatted at all. It's almost like the author decided to throw a Kindle version together at the very last minute. If I'm paying 9.99 for a book, it better damn well be formatted correctly. I can get FREE books that are formatted correctly. This book is literally all over the place. There are footers, headers, and what i can only assume would be side-bar boxes sandwiched in between sections of text. It is very hard to follow. I would NOT recommend this book on Kindle until the author takes the time (or money to hire someone else) to fix the formatting. I will be requesting my money back from Amazon as this book is virtually unreadable.Also, there's a lot of Christian mumbo-jumbo thrown into it, that wasn't advertised so if you're looking for a good, evidence-based, scientific relationship self-help book, without Bible quotes and references to He, Him, and Thou... get a different book.

This is a wonderful book that does a great job of giving you better ways to approach conflict while mixing in a nice dash of humor for a fun read. Most of the chapters are only a couple of pages so its easy to read a chapter a day. We read this as a couple and could really relate to the points they were making. I highly recommend this for all couples at any stage of a relationship. The principles can easily be applied to how you interact with people in your daily life, not just your spouse. We have already ordered their second book and cant wait to read that next.

Great writing. He writes it in a way that I feel as though each reader can completely relate. Some of the roles he puts the man or woman in can naturally be flip-flopped; one can still relate and place themselves in the shoes of the character. Many helpful tips and a great structure to help you outline your rules in fighting. My husband really appreciates the book as well. He took away a lot of the therapeutic expressive communication.

I learned so much from this book! In addition to setting rules for our marriage disputes, individually I learned some better ways to interact with friends and family. The authors stress being empathetic and allowing others to vent without feeling the need to offer suggestions or "fix" the problem. I'm not sure I practiced that in the past and now I remember to just listen and use validating phrases like, "that's so frustrating," or "I would be upset too." It might be a little thing, but I feel it has already helped me to be a better friend.

This is a good book, it is funny and straight forward. I know some people shy away for Christian based writing but this is a good book that does not beat you over the head with the Bible or use references from the Bible to insult the reader. What the book does is give a frame of reference for addressing some common problems that we all run into with relationships. No matter what stage of relationship you are in, this book can help you improve it. The book does not just focus on our partners flaws, but ask that we all take a look at ourselves as well. Bottom line, good read, good book.

Too many notes/quotes/tips in the side bars to the point that they were distracting from the main text. However that is my only complaint. This book is full of good information about how to communicate better with a loved one (especially boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife). I am happy to have read it and feel much better equipped to avoid or at the very least manage conflict better.

Some good thoughts if you're in a relationship where you can at least communicate enough to fight. A few too many numbered "how to" lists. I think the idea is to have those to remember quickly but with do many lists you end up not remembering any. I think if a couple were to actually create their own rules for fighting as the book suggests, it would be most helpful.

I think everyone that has a close relationship with someone needs to read and practice the advice givine in this book.