Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl - A Woman's Guide to Holding Her Own in a Relationship

Interesting and insightful .. really enjoyed this book it has helped me alter certain behaviours I used to do but seemed to have lost in the minefield that is modern dating.

Really worth a read. I am not into self help books, this is an exception. Bitches is a bit of a misnomer; it's not about being a bitch, it's about not giving up, giving in and being always available, while giving up your own life. That is simply not attractive. If you go to movies on Wednesday night with your girlfriends, keep doing that. The book tells you, in the most hilarous way, to keep your own self and character, when you have a partner. Men can read it too, it is equally applicable the other way around.

This book has genuinely given me so much clarity on my relationships and why they followed the same pattern. My life so far... I meet a man, like him, he likes me, everything is great. The feelings start to grow, I begin to care. I begin to give him everything - spend all my spare time with him, cook for him, wash his clothes. If he is moody, or stroppy I make excuses for him, I ask him what's wrong. I try to make it better with kindness. He always knows where I am and what to expect. I think about him while I'm at work. (This is making me cringe). And, as I now know after reading this great book, he starts to take me for granted, stops making an effort; the sex becomes dull or less frequent. By this stage I'm in deep, and will do anything to make him happy, at the expense of my own happiness. I MUST HAVE BEEN OUT OF MY MIND!!! The revelation is - men WANT a woman to keep her own life and interests. They WANT to work for you, to feel like, in you, they have a valued prize. Most men begin to disrespect a woman who puts his happiness before her own. Two weeks after reading this, I can't believe that I didn't already know this - but my relationship history tells a different story! I used to think that being nice, putting others before yourself was a good thing. The trouble is, people - not just men - don't respect this behaviour - they see it as weakness. Girls - make him work for you - you'll both be happier as a result.

I bought this item mainly as an aid to some research that I was doing and found it really useful; not only is it entertaining and inciteful, it's also very accessible, as the content is broken down into bite-size nuggets which are full of really thought-provoking ideas, attitudes and observations. The more I read, the more I found myself chuckling out loud and nodding in agreement as what I was reading was ringing VERY true! This is a great read I think for anyone who may be looking, either for a bit of personal help or perhaps, even a bit of a confidence boost. However, if you just want a thoroughly entertaining, fun and somewhat thought-provoking read, this book will definately tick all the boxes.

Despite being reluctant to buy this book, and believing it would be the mindless drivel that many of these self-help books are, I cannot recommend it too highly. This book is, in essense, nothing amazing but it has proved inspirational and certainly habit-, if not life-changing. It taps into advice and beliefs that I'm sure we all intuitively feel but for various reasons have overlooked, ignored, denied or even felt our own 'methods' superior to. Sherry's 'attraction principles' are brilliant: #6 - it is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt, #39 Men don't respond to words, they respond to no contact, #57 A little distance combined with the appearance of self-control makes him nervous that he may be losing you, #90 He simply won't respect a woman who automatically goes into overdrive to please him, and #91 If he doesn't give you a time, you don't have a date - are some of my favourites. In my search of a more self-respecting and controlling approach to my current relationship, one which suggests potential but tends to deliver dissatisfaction, I bought this book along with the well-known, The Rules. While The Rules have many good points, I believe that Sherry Argov's 'guide' is far more useful, self-probing and inspiring. I intend to read this book again (and again!) in the future to ensure that I don't forget the 100 'principles' that no intelligent, proactive woman should be without.

First I'd just like to say that I have never had problems with men or my looks but went through a horrible 4 year relationship that left me depleted and feeling worthless. I started reading the book and realised that I was a nice girl, thinking that my boyfriend appreciated all the things and sacrifices I did for him and loved me more for them instead of taking me for granted! I completely changed how I view relationships and put myself first all the time even if I am nice to people. I can't tell you how much I have gained. First I am happy because I take better care of myself, I see my friends more often and because I have applied all the advice in the book my new boyfriend is loving, thoughtful and respectful. I even asked him what advice he would give girls in relationships and I can tell you that his answer is already in this book! Read and apply, you will not regret it. Would just like to add that you shouldn't read this book to be able to hold on a man, you should read it to change your attitude in life.

Came in a good condition

Received an old book. Had to reorder... So I've edited my review to 5 stars, for content. Read this as a teenager, re-reading it now as an adult lol concepts still stand. Books such as Hardball for women illustrate differences between men and women in corporate environment, whereas this book is easier to digest, and is more aligned with concepts illustrated in Co Dependent no more. If you're a man, and your partner is reading this book, I hope she has enough common sense to pull out relevant concepts and not go overboard in application. Interpretation and ability to comprehend the entire material as opposed to "cherry picking" is key here, and it generally is when reading psych books. This book isn't "dark psychology", it's helpful for a woman to understand the differences between the expectations and needs of men vs women in relationships. While reading the first two chapters of the book, I kept wondering if this was written by a woman who is an avoidant. But as the book progressed I realized that this book is more similar to Attached book, in a sense where it highlights the need for the woman to ultimately become secure as opposed to remaining anxious. A lot of concepts in this book clearly illustrate that even if the man has a secure attachment style, an anxious woman would be absolutely exhausting to date hence why the examples in this book illustrate that men seek someone who can hold their own (aka secure). This book is not about highlighting that the woman is the princess and the man is a sugar daddy who bends backwards just to get bread crumbs. It's about illustrating that men have very simple needs, and will go above and beyond for a woman who doesn't nag, holds her own, is fair and slightly mysterious. Does book is not about rewarding obnoxious, cruel women. Lastly, although I don't appreciate the author comparing men to 3-year-old boys looking for their mama while being mischievous, the author correctly captures the dynamic in a sense that while a 3-year-old wants independence, he still wants unconditional love. For me the key takeaway was: have a life, do not make your partner the center of your universe, treat him as a human being and make sure your partner respects you.. "Character discernment" goes a long way so if he's really mean? Leave and find someone who would treat you respectfully and is eager to be kind and polite to a good woman. This book assumes that the man is not cruel, and it does not teach women how to be cruel either. Entertaining read.

Skip some lesson, too toxic. But in general a great reads and even helped me train my new actually pet, no joke

Das Buch vermittelt wichtige Denkanstöße rund um Selbstwert, Grenzen setzen und Beziehungen. Der Schreibstil ist direkt und teilweise provokant, aber genau das macht die Botschaft klar und einprägsam. Man lernt, sich selbst nicht zu verlieren und die eigenen Bedürfnisse ernst zu nehmen. Sehr lesenswert für alle, die an sich und ihren Beziehungen arbeiten möchten.

I was a little hesitant to purchase this book because of the title. As a girl, I don’t want to be a bitch. But this book actually explains that the term bitch is about being confident, strong and independent. This is a life manual that you don’t wanna miss.